引用(痛并快乐者 @ 16 Mar 2008, 9:59)

昨晚不管三七二十一全跟BF说了,结果呢,还行

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他的回答是其实他也一直在考虑结婚的事,只是觉得还没到时候,在确定结婚后他能保证我会真的很幸福之前,是不会结婚的,因为考虑到我离开父母跟他呆在这,如果不幸福,他会感觉很亏欠我父母,他觉得结婚意味着他抢走了我爸妈的心爱的东西,所以考虑成熟前,是不会贸然的

; 而且他说,英国的传统是结婚要先征求女方家长的同意 (他还没见过我父母),现在他自个儿正努力学中文,准备跟我爸妈交流 (因为打算今年带他回家)
希望万事ok,有时觉得他太seriously,而且总是为我想了太多的事,怕我不开心,怕我担忧。。。却不知,有时,这也是一种负担。。。
good luck, and glad to hear that. your bf sounds quite reliable:) when i just went out with my bf, he was a typical nonemarriage supporter, his parents devoiced when he was young, he just think marriage is a piece of paper. i shown his my attitude about marriage, i feel it is a big commitment to someone whom you wanna spend the rest life with. we didnt talk about marriage that much since we together, because still a bit early, we together just 1 year. however, this year i was stressed out by visa issue, he can see my frustration, but i didnt push him to the marriage for this reason(well, even i had a little thought, but i didnt really, i think it is not fair to him), he asked to register only for me, because he wants to see im happy.

im very impressed actually.
lucky you, your bf learn chinese, my bf wouldnt learn at all!!! anyway, i hope i can take him back to china soon as well. good luck for everything.